A Note to the Teachers

Well, I did the unthinkable. Something I know you've wanted to do, and maybe you've beat me to the punch.

Although my son is a high school junior, I sent an e-mail introducing him to every teacher. I told them, although they probably don't notice, he has Asperger's. I explained that he has a 504 plan, and that he is allowed extra time, and that all assignments need to be presented in writing - not a big deal, but, dear fellow parents, you know how our children slip through the cracks - particularly those who look and SEEM nuerotypical.

Almost every one of them sent me a very supportive response immediatley, and two teachers said they were reading his modifications as they responded (YIPPEE!). All said the first week went smoothly, he was well-mannered and they didn't forsee any problems. Every one of them said they would look out for him, and if he expressed concern or confusion to let them know immediately......

There you have it, gentle readers. My son may not be in the top 5% of the class (although he's pretty high up there and in the National Honor Society), but it is a shame to overlook him because he is not as fast as the others.

Don't forget to advocate for your child. Embrace the labels. The earlier you do, the sooner your child will surpass the limits of that label...

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Sometimes the biggest bullies at school are the teachers, and that's a sad fact. Out of seven teachers last year, my son had three awesome teachers and the rest? Well, they were overwhelmed.

His only modification in his 504 is that he is allowed extra time to complete assignments and tests because when he is in the middle of having tics he can't hear directions or attend to a task.

When teachers are aware of the situation and pretty much force him to beg for that time, that's bullying. My son was calling me from school, in tears, wanting me to come and pick him up. That's pretty heart-wrenching for any mom. He was 13 years old at the time, so I think that made it more unusual.

Just a word to you moms of special needs kids out there: Trust your gut and stand by your children. School is a struggle every day for our children, even if they are bright. Consider home schooling - just another option.

Tip: When you are new to this, and you are faced with attending IEP meetings, invite friends and family who know and love your child. They can provide valuable insight at a time when your nerves are shot and table talk turns to unfamiliar territory.